Nicole Saunders, LCSW

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Need a Social Media Detox?

Let’s face it, most of us have a full blown social media addiction. It is just so entertaining to scroll through Instagram while waiting in line at the grocery store. Meeting a friend for lunch and she’s running late? No problem, catching up on your Facebook feed is an easy way to kill the time.…

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Radical Acceptance: Accepting The Things You Cannot Control

Have you ever heard of the Serenity Prayer? God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. It has been adopted by Alcoholics Anonymous, but I think the prayer prescribes a practice that would be beneficial to us all,…

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Your Word for 2018

As traditional New Years resolutions fall out of fashion, new ideas pop up designed to help us regroup and decide how to progress for the next 365 days. Coming up with a word for the year is a popular approach, but figuring out a word that will carry you through the entire year can seem…

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Free Yourself From Perfectionism

Perfectionism is one of the worst psychological traps. It is a snake eating its own tail. Being driven to take on all the responsibilities only means there are more opportunities to screw up. This is the predicament that sends the perfectionist’s anxiety sky high! Getting to the root of perfectionism takes time and the following…

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3 Ways to Shake the Post-Holiday Blues

We spend the last months of each year decorating, indulging, anticipating, and celebrating. It is no wonder that January brings with it a bit of the post-holiday funk. Behind us is fun and festivity and in front of us is responsibility and discipline—no thank you! If you notice yourself feeling a little more lethargic and…

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Why Everyone Needs Therapy

Here’s How Everyone Can Benefit from Therapy There’s often a stigma associated with therapy: everyone who needs therapy is broken, sick, or mentally ill. Not only is this not true, but this notion could prevent many people from seeking help, some who greatly need it. Therapy is not just for people who are struggling in…

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How To Avoid Divorce With Discernment Counseling

What Is Discernment Counseling?   Discernment counseling is when couples seek counsel about whether or not to end their marriage. Usually this happens when a couple is on the verge of deciding to divorce. In many cases, the spouses have mixed feelings: one partner wants to save the marriage and one wants to end it.…

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The Easy Way To Say No!

Saying no may seem more difficult than Monday morning, but if you use the following tips you will be declining anything that comes your way in no time!   Here is how you say ‘NO’ in 4 steps: 1. Compliment/Empathize You can say no and still express well wishes. Using a compliment or empathizing with…

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4 Reasons You Are Unhappy

‘The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.’ – John Milton, Paradise Lost Ask an unhappy person why they are unhappy and you’re likely to hear all about the people, life events, and circumstances that have contributed to their negative state of mind. Since…

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Paying For Therapy Out-of-Pocket

Several years ago, I asked if it was worth it to use insurance to pay for therapy. I wrote that blog post before the Affordable Care Act was enacted and I’ve been waiting and watching to see how, if at all, mental healthcare benefits would change. From my perspective as a therapist and life coach,…

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